I'm here to share some work I did for Good for Her around sex and disability. It was part of an internship/service learning placement I did for a Disability Studies seminar I took with Rod Michalko. Here is 1 of 4 posts I wrote. Feedback would be lovely!
Sex and disability. These are two words that we don’t often hear together, in the same sentence or even conversation. For those of you who are disabled, I’m sure you’re well aware of the disturbingly common misconception that disabled folks are asexual and incapable of having sex or being sexy. You also probably know this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Just like there are countless ways of expressing our sensuality, there are a diversity of ways of being disabled. While the dominant mindset is still Disabled Equals Asexual, there has been a lot of work in recent years by disabled activists and their allies to promote sex-positivity in the disabled community and disseminate information to the masses (thank you, Internet).
When it comes to sex and disability (including masturbation and sex with a partner(s)), there is absolutely no one-size-fits-all product or way of ‘doing it.’ The most importation things to remember when looking for toys that will work for you or your partner (or the both of you!) are:
a) knowing what you want
b) knowing what will work best for you/her/him
c) a sense of imagination and creativity
Sexual expression is always learning processes, whether you’re disabled or not. Communicating and understanding your body are the keys to maximizing your sexual pleasure, whether it’s by yourself or with a partner(s). Sex should be fun… and it should be an option for everyone. So, through the creation of this resource guide, everyone will be able to partake in the fun!!
Check back next week for another blog post and an update on the sexy disability product guide.
Originally posted on Good for Her's blog.